092: "Best Self" Exercise

Season Two Sep 27, 2021

This is a simple activity that helps reveal your unique strengths.

Step 1: Think of 3-5 people who know you well. Friends, family, loved ones etc.

Step 2: Send them each a short email, asking:

"When have you seen me being my best self?"

A friend introduced me to this exercise last year. I got back some excellent responses, full of clarifying patterns and pleasant surprises.

I bet you'll learn something useful.

Good luck!

Here's an email template.

Modify as you wish.

Dear [person],

I read about a reflection exercise today (in an awesome newsletter called The Fire Jar). It involves e-mailing a couple people that know me well and asking:

When have you seen me being my "best self"?

I'm hoping you'll be able to help me with any thoughts that come to mind.

Thanks in advance!

- [You]

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